{"id":1044,"date":"2023-07-20T21:52:54","date_gmt":"2023-07-20T20:52:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/?p=1044"},"modified":"2023-07-20T21:53:03","modified_gmt":"2023-07-20T20:53:03","slug":"the-signs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/archives\/1044","title":{"rendered":"The Signs"},"content":{"rendered":"

So here is where I struggle. I struggle with false energy and by that I mean energy that is not authentic.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And then today I had this epiphany that perhaps I\u2019m seeing things I\u2019m not supposed to be seeing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What if there is a natural layer of \u2018etiquette energy\u2019, where people communicate on a polite level with each other that is so intrinsic and accepted in society that we don\u2019t even bother to scratch the surface of whether it\u2019s true? What if the majority of folks live by these unspoken communication rules and that\u2019s why they find it easy to have untroubled dynamics within their circles?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

What if my hyper-vigilance, through trauma and\/or personality, where I can gauge every nuance of energy within a room, where I can sense the raised eyebrows, the quiet sighs, the subtle step back as if there were neon arrows above their heads; what if I\u2019m not really supposed to register those things?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I suddenly realised that maybe I would find the world so much simpler and easier if I just took the words and gestures as they are intended to be imparted rather than seeing behind each veil and psychological give away. Is that how most people live?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I can feel so drained and sensitive to all of these non verbal clues and I can interpret all the feelings behind them (not always without bias from my own triggers and history, I own that!) that I feel somewhat hesitant to engage in certain interactions and I can withdraw and step back from places that I had hoped to be welcomed. But perhaps I was welcomed, if I hadn\u2019t read the signs.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And I don\u2019t know how not to.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know how not to see the flashes of annoyance across the cornea, or hear the intake of breath, or the huff of disagreement. I don\u2019t know how not to see their lack of interest in their shifting feet or their determined smile that hangs too long.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But I do wonder if perhaps I didn\u2019t put so much weight to these subtleties that maybe I would be able to engage in a strata of society that has hitherto mystified me.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I wonder.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

First published on social media on 24th February 2022<\/p>\n

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So here is where I struggle. I struggle with false energy and by that I mean energy that is not authentic.\u00a0 And then today I had this epiphany that perhaps I\u2019m seeing things I\u2019m not supposed to be seeing.\u00a0 What if there is a natural layer of \u2018etiquette energy\u2019, where people communicate on a polite … Continue reading “The Signs”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1045,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,1],"tags":[62,460,36,462,459,461,122,94,463],"class_list":["post-1044","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-holistic-health-emotional-healing","category-personal-moments","tag-acceptance","tag-authentic","tag-communication","tag-etiquette","tag-hypervigilance","tag-nonverbal","tag-society","tag-trauma","tag-wonder"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1044","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1044"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1044\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1047,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1044\/revisions\/1047"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1045"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1044"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1044"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1044"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}