{"id":1131,"date":"2023-07-20T23:55:47","date_gmt":"2023-07-20T22:55:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/?p=1131"},"modified":"2023-07-20T23:55:47","modified_gmt":"2023-07-20T22:55:47","slug":"rageful","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/archives\/1131","title":{"rendered":"Rageful"},"content":{"rendered":"

My husband and I are at THAT mid-life stage. There is a lot of emotional turmoil in many of our friends\u2019 relationships, the cusp of divorces or other challenging consequences, and we ourselves are certainly far from immune to feeling the spiritual demands of these years.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the messages my husband keeps bringing home from his friends is how they feel they have coped with their wives as they have journeyed through the menopause and a recurrent theme is that they were \u2018crazy and rageful\u2019.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Now I am sceptical about this description for so many reasons but I also understand that many men just don\u2019t understand the process, cycles and energy of women. We can be an enigma to them and there is dual responsibility here, the women can help men unravel their waves and cycles (though to be fair, many women are also disconnected from our ancient wisdom and wild power via modern societies demands so aren\u2019t always able to explain or fully understand their own patterns) and the men can be willing to try and learn about this wisdom too, rather than simply dismissing it as crazy or unpredictable.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I am not an expert but I certainly know that a few days before my menses there is only a fine veil between my patience and frustration. The rest of the month I can walk through fields of graciousness, but annoy me close to my bleed and it\u2019s just a tiny ditch away from anger. It is not irrational, there is always a valid trigger, it\u2019s just that the comparison of how I communicate and resolve that annoyance is a chasm away from the rest of the time. So I understand that men can receive that as too different to process.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Now brining this to the menopause, I myself have begun to have disrupted cycles. This month I am already ten days over my usual date and that window of short fuse is stretching into a full conservatory. I suddenly realise how this is being received by the masculine, that odd day of \u2018crazy\u2019 that can be quickly forgotten or forgiven each month is stretching and elongating. That ditch is being jumped back and forth on too many occasions and when will it end? What if I don\u2019t bleed for months? Will I still feel this premenstrual angst for the entire time?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And it has purpose. Just like it did for every regular cycle I have had for the last thirty something years. Would I describe myself as rageful? Nope. But I\u2019m certainly less gracious right now. I\u2019m less willing to put up with my notion of bullshit, I\u2019m less patient, I need authenticity, directness and clean communication. Is that wrong? Could that be positive? I believe so.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Not knowing when this will end, I can\u2019t just check out, read books, take baths and try all my previous ploys to navigate those one or two days of lore. I have to learn to adapt and adjust but I\u2019m also not going to be labelled as negatively rageful when I know the root of my energy is power. I will learn to channel it and honour it as I step into this new era of my life. I am moving into a time where I have the greatest energetic potential, so it\u2019s no wonder that the transformation is fiery. Call it rageful if you must but I will reclaim that word and alchemise it into gold.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

First published on social media on 15th April 2023<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My husband and I are at THAT mid-life stage. There is a lot of emotional turmoil in many of our friends\u2019 relationships, the cusp of divorces or other challenging consequences, and we ourselves are certainly far from immune to feeling the spiritual demands of these years.\u00a0 One of the messages my husband keeps bringing home … Continue reading “Rageful”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1132,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,592,1],"tags":[597,598,36,595,104,593,596,594,247,283,234,599,129,600],"class_list":["post-1131","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-holistic-health-emotional-healing","category-menopause","category-personal-moments","tag-alchemy","tag-authenticity","tag-communication","tag-crazy","tag-gold","tag-menopause","tag-midlife","tag-perimenopause","tag-potential","tag-power","tag-rage","tag-rageful","tag-understanding","tag-wildpower"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1131","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1131"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1131\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1133,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1131\/revisions\/1133"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1132"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1131"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1131"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1131"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}