{"id":722,"date":"2018-06-09T15:16:07","date_gmt":"2018-06-09T14:16:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/?p=722"},"modified":"2018-06-09T15:16:07","modified_gmt":"2018-06-09T14:16:07","slug":"the-good-the-bad-the-ugly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/archives\/722","title":{"rendered":"The Good, The Bad & The Ugly"},"content":{"rendered":"

I wrote recently about my kids bickering (A Ruthless Mirror<\/a>) and how I know that I need to model some more consistent kindness & patience myself before I can really ask much more of them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I sincerely believe that our children are reflections of those closest to them and if their behaviour is errant in anyway, more often than not, the adjustments can be made by owning our own shadows and influences.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But it can feel rather hard and exhausting to feel that weight of responsibility when facing challenging\u00a0childhood dynamics. Unless of course there is a counter balance.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

This balance would be the ability to see and own the reflection of their gold; their kindnesses, their humour, their generosity and love.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And I caught myself the other day being unable to hold that gold. I realised the message I told myself was that all their gold belonged solely to them, they were born that way and it was in spite of me rather than with-the-help-of-me that they expressed their brilliance. Yet I would happily flagellate myself when their shadows and darkness expressed themselves too fiercely.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So to balance my own self-criticism I am going to allow myself a little bit of accountability for all their deliciousness too. I cannot, nor do I wish to, claim it all, for I have witnessed how much they have brought with them in their own souls; but sometimes there are moments when they reflect back to me the positive influences I have had. So now I will absorb these moments, wrap them in love and tuck them into my heart to help me harmonise our little unit.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

I will remember that all is welcome, the good, the bad and the ugly; I will remember to keep on shining my own light to rebalance my darkness.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And I will be proud of me just as much as I am achingly proud of them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I wrote recently about my kids bickering (A Ruthless Mirror) and how I know that I need to model some more consistent kindness & patience myself before I can really ask much more of them.\u00a0 I sincerely believe that our children are reflections of those closest to them and if their behaviour is errant in … Continue reading “The Good, The Bad & The Ugly”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":723,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[23,42,104,19,12,29,145],"class_list":["post-722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-personal-moments","tag-balance","tag-children","tag-gold","tag-healing","tag-love","tag-parents","tag-shadows"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/722","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=722"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/722\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":725,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/722\/revisions\/725"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/723"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=722"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=722"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=722"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}