So I was recently dumped on.<\/p>\n
Emotionally speaking.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n This week I have had three hugely frustrating conversations with various customer service representatives from three vastly different companies. All of them were unable to satisfy my enquiry because of company policy\/beliefs. And with one I got a bit arsey until I brought myself into check and reminded myself that he is simply the spokesperson or, frankly, not even that, the automaton for the company. It was not his fault.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And then it happened to me.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Someone had issues with the bigger cogs of a wheel I was representing and took me out in their frustration. Everything that I was doing was wrong and causing them distress. And then they got personal too and started the whole \u2018other people think this too\u2019 about me. That I\u2019m not doing things in the best way, that I\u2019m not diplomatic or something enough. That I am too abrupt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Yup. I can be. And I have spent years beating myself up on \u2018not being enough\u2019 and I spent a few days holding this energy that was hurled at me; dumped on me.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And then I remembered that I\u2019m ok. That I am a good person, even if I am sometimes abrupt. I am kind even if I not ALWAYS diplomatic. That I am allowed to be human and flawed and that when someone is dumping, that is their shit to deal with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n As Tosha Silver said is her fabulous new book \u2018It\u2019s not your Money\u2019: \u2018This event may indeed have been Divinely orchestrated… I was even grateful to the curt lady who\u2019d hurt my feelings. If I\u2019d hated her, I would have missed the whole point.\u2019<\/p>\n And this was me, I could hate the woman for dumping AND feel shit about myself or I could take the opportunity to recognise my vulnerability to this sort of judgement, take a deep breath and restore my soul.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n All of it is a gift. All of it is a lesson worth learning.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n And breathe….. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" So I was recently dumped on. Emotionally speaking.\u00a0 This week I have had three hugely frustrating conversations with various customer service representatives from three vastly different companies. All of them were unable to satisfy my enquiry because of company policy\/beliefs. And with one I got a bit arsey until I brought myself into check and … Continue reading “Dumped On”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":799,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,4],"tags":[228,36,117,60,229,230,19,116,231,16,17,232,129],"class_list":["post-798","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-gratitudes","category-holistic-health-emotional-healing","tag-attack","tag-communication","tag-compassion","tag-connection","tag-divine","tag-gifts","tag-healing","tag-kindness","tag-lessons","tag-selfesteem","tag-selfworth","tag-toshasilver","tag-understanding"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/798","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=798"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/798\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":841,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/798\/revisions\/841"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/799"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=798"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=798"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/soulreflection.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=798"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}